Perfectly Described...

Someone on FF asked a question about whether the IF pain ever goes away once you adopt, and Tracie's response hit the nail on the head. It was just too good not to post.

For me, it's like a scar. When it was a fresh, open wound it hurt like nothing else. Every little bump made it bleed. Once I became a mommy it began to heal. It's all closed up now, but there's a scar. Scars are always there to remind us of where we've been and what has happened. Sometimes they can be a little bit tender and because they're there, you never look the same. But it's part of who you are.

I only wish I could have put it more perfectly! As I read her response I found myself nodding in agreement. There are times when I long to experience giving birth to our baby. It doesn't lessen how much love I feel for our girls, but the longing to have a biological child hasn't gone away. We are so in love with our girls, and I have come to terms with never having a child, but coming to terms with it doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt when I hear about an "oops" pregnancy. IF will always be a part of my life...I guess it just doesn't knock me to my knees anymore thanks to the adoption of our girls.